Love language and love tank

Today I learnt how to fulfill one of the most important sphere of a human life "Emotional needs and how to keep them satisfied".

Thanks to Dr Gary Champman, once you read his book "The Five love languages”, I am sure your concepts of emotional being will become crystal clear. This book is bound to help everyone - parents, married couple, 30yrs into marriage.

  If there are greater times that you feel that you are not loved any more or there is a bigger gap with the one you want to reflect, then sure your "love tank" is less than half full.

 

  He goes on to describe 5 love languages as:-

               1) Words of affirmation

               2) Acts of service

               3) Gifts

               4) Physical touch

               5) Quality time

              

  Every individual reciprocates more readily to his/her primarily love language. And if you / your spouse / parent's are not reciprocating in your love language then you don't feel loved even though they may be doing hundred other things for you.

 

  1) Say as a child, say your primary love language was "quality time" and your parent’s give you gift but don’t play with you or give much needed attention then you'll never be satisfied. But sure if you primary language is ‘Gifts’ you’ll be more than happy.

  2) Say your spouse’s primary love language is 'acts of service', even though you may be gifting her, going out for dinners, but unless you help her with her work (doing dishes, keeping house clean etc.) she would not feel loved.

  3) It wouldn’t matter if you are helping her with her work, giving her gifts unless you say words of affirmation (thank you for doing it for me, you food is very tasty today, you look pretty today ...) if her love language is words of affirmation

 

 

  Going through the book I personally feel enlightened and feel life is simplified once concepts become clear.